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READING: Our Band Could Be Your LIfe
LISTENING: Anything related to Our Band Could Be Your Life

My sister has begged me to write an apology to Mrs. A and you for disgracing your party; now it does seem to me that I rather honored your party, for everyone that was not drunk (and one or two of the ladies, I am sure, were not) must have been set off greatly in the contrast to me.

othernotebooksareavailable asked: You were an artisan in Munich in the 1450s, a member of the guild of carpenters. You ran around with other people's wives - though to be fair, most of the women hadn't had a choice in who to marry, and your charming presence and dedication to each of them, brought more love into their lives than would have been there otherwise. Love, and children. Lots of your descendants still live in Bavaria.

So not much has changed, then!

To all those who don’t think the rape joke was a problem, or rape jokes are a problem.

I get it, you’re a decent guy. I can even believe it. You’ve never raped anybody. You would NEVER rape anybody. You’re upset that all these feminists are trying to accuse you of doing something or connect you to doing something that, as far as you’re concerned, you’ve never done and would never condone.

And they’ve told you about triggers, and PTSD, and how one in six women is a survivor, and you get it. You do. But you can’t let every time someone gets all upset get in the way of you having a good time, right?

So fine. If all those arguments aren’t going anything for you, let me tell you this. And I tell you this because I genuinely believe you mean it when you say you don’t want to hurt anybody, and you don’t see the harm, and that it’s important to you to do your best to be a decent and good person. And I genuinely believe you when you say you would never associate with a rapist and you think rape really is a very bad thing.

Because this is why I refuse to take rape jokes sitting down-

6% of college age men, slightly over 1 in 20, will admit to raping someone in anonymous surveys, as long as the word “rape” isn’t used in the description of the act.

6% of Penny Arcade’s target demographic will admit to actually being rapists when asked.

A lot of people accuse feminists of thinking that all men are rapists. That’s not true. But do you know who think all men are rapists?

Rapists do.

They really do. In psychological study, the profiling, the studies, it comes out again and again.

Virtually all rapists genuinely believe that all men rape, and other men just keep it hushed up better. And more, these people who really are rapists are constantly reaffirmed in their belief about the rest of mankind being rapists like them by things like rape jokes, that dismiss and normalize the idea of rape.

If one in twenty guys is a real and true rapist, and you have any amount of social activity with other guys like yourself, really cool guy, then it is almost a statistical certainty that one time hanging out with friends and their friends, playing Halo with a bunch of guys online, in a WoW guild, or elsewhere, you were talking to a rapist. Not your fault. You can’t tell a rapist apart any better than anyone else can. It’s not like they announce themselves.

But, here’s the thing. It’s very likely that in some of these interactions with these guys, at some point or another someone told a rape joke. You, decent guy that you are, understood that they didn’t mean it, and it was just a joke. And so you laughed.

And, decent guy who would never condone rape, who would step in and stop rape if he saw it, who understands that rape is awful and wrong and bad, when you laughed?

That rapist who was in the group with you, that rapist thought that you were on his side. That rapist knew that you were a rapist like him. And he felt validated, and he felt he was among his comrades.

You. The rapist’s comrade.

And if that doesn’t make you feel sick to your stomach, if that doesn’t make you want to throw up, if that doesn’t disturb you or bother you or make you feel like maybe you should at least consider not participating in that kind of humor anymore…

Well, maybe you aren’t as opposed to rapists as you claim.

Time-Machine (via a comment at shakesville.com)

Single greatest argument about this I have ever heard. 

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100% A+++++

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(Mitch) Glazer’s wife, the actress Kelly Lynch, revealed in an interview last fall that Murray and his brothers call the couple’s house anytime they catch the sex scene between Lynch and Patrick Swayze in Road House on TV.

"It’s totally true. No matter what time, two in the morning, it’s ‘Patrick Swayze’s fucking your wife right now. Oh… He’s pushing her up against the wall.’ It was kind of funny, the first dozen or so times," Glazer says.

This Guy Could Be President, by Brett Martin for GQ

is this at your place? do we have the same RUG? if so, how do you get that thing to stop shedding? also, cute kid! <3

(Source: shaunaanddavid)

DAVID JOHANSEN: Bowie used to come see us play at the Mercer Arts Center. I had never heard of him before. I remember he used to come around in these quilted drag outfits, and he asked me, “Who does your hair?”
I said, “Johnny Thunders,” which was the truth.

Please Kill Me: The Uncensored Oral History of Punk

CJ: Everyone’s stupid in an election year.
CHARLIE: No, everyone gets treated stupid in an election year.

—The West Wing, Season 2, Episode 9. (via nedhepburn)